As children, many of us were afraid of “the boogeyman” or the monster under the bed. And most of us were told by our parents that the boogeyman doesn’t exist, there is no monster under the bed or hiding in the closet. My mother told me almost nightly for a few years that I have nothing to be scared of.
While we mature and the fear of the boogeyman dissipates, I don’t believe we drop the fear entirely. As a society, fundamentally we believe in a source of evil. As we move into adulthood, evil takes a more realistic shape and shifts most commonly into 1 of 3 forms. In other words, we think we aren’t afraid of or believe in the boogeyman anymore, but we do believe in an external source of evil. I have observed that the boogeyman shows up in most commonly in these 3 forms:
1) The Disciplinarian – I went to Catholic school for 12 years and I can still feel the fear of seeing Sister Raymond coming around the corner in my high school’s hallways. She was the enforcer of our school uniform. In my attempt at rebellion, I wore my skirt well above my knees and my knee socks pushed down to my ankles, each of which would earn me 6 demerits and that equalled detention. The Disciplinarian can take many other forms: a mean teacher, a scary minister, a parent, a babysitter. No matter what – the Disciplinarian holds the power of asserting punishment on you and you fear that punishment, so you do whatever you can to avoid it. How many times do you take action because you feel you “should” do it? Perhaps dropping a belief that some invisible disciplinarian is going to assert terrible punishment on you if you don’t do your “shoulds” would help you.
2) The Enemy or Competition – We have all witnessed the crazy parent on the sidelines routing for his or her child’s team as if the kids on the other team are the evil competition. And I may have been that crazy parent once or twice (maybe not outwardly, but for sure inwardly). The enemy can inspire immense fear. Just think about what the events of September 11th have done to the American population in terms of fear.
3) The Crazy Psycho – This is the form of evil that has no specific target. It just acts out on anyone and asserts its evil to anyone or anything that crosses its path.
I am here to tell you that there is no boogeyman. There is no external source of evil, just like there is no “dark” switch in a window-less room. Darkness comes from the absence of light. Your natural state is that of pure, white light. Fear covers up that light and has you turned away from it. People are either connected or disconnected. That is why Franklin Delano Roosevelt was so incredibly wise when he said in his 1933 inaugural speech, “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
The Universe has your back. The stream of well-being flowing to you is infinite, powerful, and magical. You are surrounded by Divine support … always! You are God’s favorite child (but don’t tell anyone).
Your attention to the unwanted blocks the light and prevents your access to that support. Not only that but your attention to the unwanted attracts the unwanted to you. This is a universe of INclusion not EXclusion. So when you shout “no” at something, you are actually including it in your vibe and thus shouting “yes” at it. This prolongs your realization of all the great success you’ve asked for. As long as you believe in a source of evil and take action from a place of fear, you will not move closer to realizing your dreams. Your dreams won’t go anywhere. They won’t dissipate. And when you drop the fear, when you stop focusing on the unwanted, your dreams will come to you like a moth to a flame.